You know it happens, because you've seen it happen on countless bridal reality shows: a bride falls madly in love with a dress, only to wear it beaming out to see her posse, who react in horror, tell her it's awful, and crush her dreams. 9 times out of 10, the gown the bride loved is no longer an option, simply because it wasn't her mom's favorite color or her friends thought it was too traditional. It's a sad story.
But how do you keep from getting caught in a bridal gown opinion stampede? Here are the two things you need to remember:
Speak your mind. This is YOUR dress. Say it with me: This is MY dress. Your opinion, solitary though it may be, is by far the most important opinion in this process, if not the only important one. Practice saying "Well I think it's beautiful" and if you love something, don't be afraid to say so. Wearing a gown that makes you feel like your sister or your BFF will leave you uncomfortable and feeling like you're in costume. You must feel like you. A dressed up, unbelievable, once in a lifetime version of you, but still YOU. Don't let anyone else make this decision for you.
Use your consultant. Little known trick: bridal consultants are excellent team mates. If you fall in love with a gown, but you know Grandma or cousin Suzy is going to hate it, confide your fears to your consultant while you're in the room and let her do what she does best - sell the gown. A few quick comments from her about how gorgeous your tiny waist looks, how classic the neckline is, and how unbelievably happy you look, and how no one could argue that you look anything less than perfect, and even your most opinionated relatives will be reaching for the tissues. We're on your side - we're happy if you, the bride, are happy, and we will do whatever it takes to help you get there. Even if that means taking on your Aunt Mary and her love for the puffed sleeves of the eighties. Bring it on.
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